Expat Mommitment. Because Expat moms need support too.
All moms need Support, don’t You think?
Especially when we’re feeling down, lonely or overburdened with the toddlers and their devilish ways. Some days all we want is a hug, a walk and talk, a cup of coffee and some laughs, maybe just a sleep in. But in some cases we are far from our families, we don´t have our own moms or sisters that can help out and take the kids for a few hours, an old friend with kids of her own that we can hang out with without having to go through the dreaded small talk.
But eventually we break, feel like we´re doing it all wrong, fight with the kids or the husband, feel lonely and lose control. Sometimes we feel depressed, or have anxiety / panic attacks, expat moms aren´t exempt from these, we really aren’t. There’s even a kind of depression called “Expat Depression” and it is real. I am not going to argue with that. I know it well, but don´t worry I’m ok.
I like to think that us expat moms are admired back home. That we are so brave and adventurous, leaving the comfort of our life to take our kids on a World Expedition. That we are seen as an inspiration for those moms that feel like they are stuck in their situation and would love a change. What I know we are, is the strength and backbone of our Third Culture kids. We are wonder-women! I really want to believe all that.
Us expat moms are also under scrutiny, just like any other mom. Do your kids go to International School? Do you let them play with the local kids? Do you feed them western food or local food? Do you teach them the local language? Do they have an English Speaking nanny? Do they have a driver? Do you homeschool them? Do you teach them the local culture? Do you travel back home often?
#MOMMITMENT and The Mom Movement
Some months ago before moving from Phuket to Bali, I discovered Mommitment, a movement started by a mom who had had enough of the mom wars, a mom who had been through enough shit in her life to have to deal with the haters. She created Mommitment for all the other moms out there who needed to feel supported, and loved. Even if it is through the windows of the Internet, this kind of help and support goes a long way, specially for us expat moms who may have a hard time making friends. I would like to invite you sign the #Mommitment petition and join hundreds of other moms around the world that are supporting each other with love and without judgement.
It was through Julie @ Next life no Kids that I managed to get out of a really dirty rut I was in when we first arrived in Bali. I mean Bali is meant to be paradise right? So why was I so down? Julie and the ladies in the Mommitment FB Group helped me face my demons and get back to writing, the best personal therapy there is. Thank you ladies, I am eternally grateful.